"Then we'll donate the spare to Shepherds of Good Hope or something. My family has a dreadful tendancy to see what they want and think they deserve it. So do you, sometimes, baby. The little one needs to understand that we do love him, and will get him some things, but he needs to work for the luxuries."

Don't get him wrong. They will be very good Christmas presents. But.

"The Christmas season is about giving, and sharing. I don't want him thinking it's about money. If he comes away knowing I'm happiest with a mug with 'daddy' misspelled on it that he puts effort into rather than the fanciest thing he could buy, then I've done my job."